I GET TO SEE MY DAD EARLY! I leave on a plane for home at 7a.m. tomorrow and get there about 830 which gives me an Entire day to see him- it's a surprise, so keep it on the down-low ;) It's one way, so I'm still driving back up with my roommates.
However; like I hinted at there is a very ugly side to this. My roommates are furious with me. I was meant to ride down with them, thus splitting gas. The $ isn't an issue, I was going to give it to them anyway since I backed out of the plan- that's just a common decency thing. But apparently the only reason their father (they're brother and sister) was coming up in the first place and they didn't look for flights home was because they thought that, if they didn't drive, I wouldn't be able to afford to go home for Thanksgiving.
That may or may not have been the case; either way, I emphasized to them initially to Not change or make plans with me in mind as life has been known to change dramatically. Though I said this, they are really caring people and, apparently, made the decision Solely for my benefit. Also, I asked if it would be alright to book a flight and only ride one way with them before I booked the plane ticket- the answer was 'sure, go see your dad.' They are also now saying that their father 'has trouble driving and swerves uncontrollably' so it's dangerous; making me feel doubly guilty.
I really care about this family and would Never do anything to put them out in any way, and Certainly not to put anyone in danger! They've been great friends for a long time and have pulled through for me when I was going through an incredibly traumatic roommate situation earlier this quarter and needed to move off campus, taking it upon themselves to take me in early. However, now I am not being spoken to or looked at. I don't know what to do. While I guess I understand where they are coming from, I did everything in my power to make sure that I was making a good decision. I did not realize that my action would hurt or really even affect them; but apparently I've inadvertantly really caused their family pain. It's been Really tense which has affected not only my mood/perception of myself, but my food choices.
Hence the lack of posting. I was just so lost that I didn't really know how to articulate it.
Thanks for accepting me back into the fold! There are definitely some pictures worth seeing that will be spread throughout later posts, but right now I'm at the computer lab.
Hope everyone is getting ready for a relaxing thanksgiving and/or just a calm happy day! You guys are amazing ;)
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I am so glad to see you have posted again! :) But, one problem- your posts don't show up in my Google reader, grr! I don't know whyyyy!
Anyway- that is a tricky situation. I think they will get over it since y'all are so close. I don't see how this little change (life happens) could cause such a dramatic disturbance in your friendship with them!
I am here if ya need to vent or talk :)
Have a good evening, darlin!
Glad you're back :)
That's an icky situation. In my opinion you're in the right, but I wouldn't know how to fix things. If the dad is such a bad driver though why would they have done it in the first place anyway though?!?
Hope you have fun seeing your dad :)
Thank goodness you're back!!
Ahh, definitely a tough situation - I'm praying all works out for you!!
Aww, I;m sorry about the situation. it seems like you were really clear about them not changing their plans for you, so if they did, it's hard for me to see them being mad at you. Ya know?
Well, I am sure it will smooth itself out over the break. Enjoy yourself!
yay, glad you're back!
i'm sorry to hear about your situation..that totally sucks. i'm sure everything will work out soon and things will blow over...hugs babe. but you'll be back in so cali soon w/ your dad; so YAY!
oh, and yes, i'll totally be ya "SISTA" hahahaha....
Wow, that sure is a sticky situation. I hope everything turns out for the trip back when them.
Hi Jess, So glad you're back--you were missed!! I am the Queen of dramatic roommate situations. I comletely sympathize. It sounds like you have conveyed that you honestly didn't think it was a big deal when you did it, or you wouldn't have done it. If they know you they should know you are being genuine. What else do they expect you to do but apologize? At this point, that is all you can do.
Why would they have their dad drive you guys all home if he was a shaky driver, anyway? The whole thing sounds like it was dramatized to make you feel guilty.
I'm sorry you've had a crappy few days. Hopefully some good time at home with family and good food will make it all better :)
welcome back and take it easy with your roommate. As long as you have in mind that they're a good family, I think you'll understand them and they'll understand you too. I know how weird and uncomfortable about this situation, but just think that they did it because they cared about you and they're mad at you because you didn't seem to appreciate their effort (I know you do). Maybe have an open talk with you and tell them how much you appreciate what they did for you?
Hope everything works out for you and enjoy your time with your Dad.
Yay for seeing your dad! I'm really glad you get to spend a whole day with him; I think it's so special when you can be so close with your parents, and I hope you have a lovely time!
But the friend situation.... it definitely is a double edges sword. It sounds to me like you did everything you can to let them know your intentions and plans. I don't see why they are so mad after you have communicated with them so well, and even paying for the gas. Maybe they are just sad because they wanted to spend extra time with you...?
I'm sure everything will work out, because you were being honest, apologetic, and very polite. Keep us updated
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